Child Minder Abuse

I`m very sure all have seen the horrible video of a child being abused by her nanny that went viral over the past weeks. I will confess, I could not watch it to the end. My stomach was in knots and I felt sick, angry and very hurt. I am generally an overly trusting person and so when we hired our first nanny and my husband suggested that we put up cameras in our home, I declined. Needless to say that I changed my mind very quickly after the few seconds I watched of that video. Finding the right child minder is a painstaking process I should know, I have been through three in a few short months. I know you might be thinking, “Well maybe you`re too picky”. And in response to that, Yes, I have become more picky and less easily trusting because my child`s safety is my number one priority.

Looking back to the times that we were growing up and needed a nanny, we were fortunate enough to have nannies who were civil with us at the very least. Now we did go through quite a few of them but that was because of issues such as theft or generally not doing a good job when it came to housework but never abuse.
Here are few tips that I have begun using and have found very helpful. I can only hope that you find them equally as useful.

1)Have hidden cameras: if you have the resources then I don’t see why you would not have them. Place them at strategic points, your kitchen, living area and your child`s bedroom. Target the places they spend the most time. Review it regularly and this will show you your nannies true character. Let`s hope she is as pleasant in your absence as she is in your presence.

2)If surveillance is not possible then carry your keys with you and drop in unannounced. A few surprise visits will hopefully dissuade anyone with bad motives from carrying them out in fear of being caught. If you can get grandparents, siblings or a close friend to pop in as well that would help.

3)Give you child some Q.T when you get back from a long day without them. Feed them their dinner. Eating too much too fast might a sign that the child is being starved during the day. Give them a bath. If not for injuries than make sure the nanny is bathing them well at the very least.

People who are likely to abuse and mistreat children give off warning signs so watch out for red flags such as how they react when they are not happy, how they speak to their own children which you might over hear in a phone call and other very small seemingly insignificant things so be very attentive. Please share your tips with us and I wish you all the very best in your journey to finding a suitable nanny for your precious little ones. If it does not work out…. Be a stay at home mom!!! I`ve considered it 🙂

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Your style is really unique in comparison to other people I have read stuff from. I appreciate you for posting when you’ve got the opportunity, Guess I’ll just book mark this page.

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Thanks for your comment. I hope to get better with time and my focus is really to just facilitate effective communication between moms so I’m glad you like the style thus far. More fun easy readings to come;)